Marriage Is A Commitment

Marriage Is A Commitment

“Marriage is a commitment”

Being that I married my high-school sweetheart you can say we have grown together literally. From high-school home-comings, prom, football games, baseball games, watching our siblings grow, long distance relationship, hardship, break ups , marriage, business, babies, new homes, heart ache, etc.

You name we have been through it. If you have been married over 10 years you know exactly what I mean.

I wouldn’t have it any other way. I believe that marriage teaches you a lot about yourself. It teaches you your strengths and weakness. It teaches you to serve, show grace, love, forgive, pivot, grow up, sacrifice, communicate, pray, patience……

To me it’s a COMMITMENT!!! I have only seen commitment from both sides of our families. There is no divorce on either side of our families. We saw our families love & fight for their marriage. I’m not saying divorce is bad. There are many reasons that make divorce okay. Things happen we are all human. There is alcohol, drug abuse, abusive relationships, affairs, etc… so much that can cause & justify divorce. But in my eyes just because it gets tough or because your not in love doesn’t seem like a reason.

I believe in fighting for marriages & commitment.

Some of the tips I have that have kept us together for over “17” years:

  1. Laugh a lot & don’t sweat the small stuff.
  2. Marry your best friend. Sex is important but it’s not the reason you marry someone. That can fade.
  3. Don’t harp on everything!
  4. Be kind to each other.
  5. Say I love you & give each other a hug when the other one needs it.
  6. Pray together before bed
  7. Forgive & remember none of us are perfect. God is the only perfect one.
  8. Assume Good will about the other partner.
  9. Apologize quickly & sometimes you have to say sorry even if you aren’t at fault to move on.
  10. See the best in your partner don’t see the flaws

I have so much more to learn but that’s what we have learned so far.

✨What have you learned so far being married or in your relationships?

Dacia

Farmers Wife & Heels👠  

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12 Comments

  1. Jackie Prieto
    December 5, 2018 / 2:02 pm

    Totally agree Dacia, funny I was having this conversation with my Mom last night who would have been celebrating 67 years marriage this Saturday had my Dad not passed away this year. Through thick and thin, I learned that as I too married my High school sweetheart and January 8 2019 we celebrate our 35th wedding anniversary!

  2. Vanessa Bastien Joseph
    December 5, 2018 / 2:13 pm

    I have only been married for 3 years. The one thing that I have learned is communication goes a looonnngggg way. Arguments have started because one refused to listen to another. There is also a big difference between listening and hearing.After differentiate the two, our communication changed drastically. It is not 100% perfection but we are getting there.

  3. Vanessa Bastien Joseph
    December 5, 2018 / 2:23 pm

    I have only been married for 3 years. The one thing that I have learned is communication goes a looonnngggg way. Arguments have started because one refused to listen to another. There is also a big difference between listening and hearing.After differentiate the two, our communication changed drastically. It is not 100% perfection but we are getting there. and God is the center of our marriage.Without Him, we would have failed!

  4. Debbie
    December 5, 2018 / 2:31 pm

    Love this! So many people have the attitude that if it’s difficult or doesn’t work out, they can get a divorce. Take two pieces of wood and glue them together…. then decide you don’t t want them together and tear them apart. You can see the damage that’s done to both sides of the wood. Same as in life…. Fight for commitment, it’s worth it! Great blog Dacia!

  5. December 5, 2018 / 3:58 pm

    Today is our 25 anniversary! God bless you Dacia!

  6. Sherry Thomas
    December 5, 2018 / 4:09 pm

    Marriage is a life long commitment to one another. From being friends to dating then saying “I Do” ! Nothing is perfect,we have to work together to make things right,from getting angry at one another to those beautiful makeups. It’s a journey that were on together so make it a good one. Been married 31 years to my best friend!!

  7. Priscila Pineiro
    December 5, 2018 / 6:29 pm

    I love it!!! I can’t wait to marry my best friend and see all the beauty God creates through that marriage 🙂

  8. Tina
    December 5, 2018 / 10:53 pm

    This is beautifully written- Thank you for sharing your wisdom. My husband and I are also high school sweethearts and have been together for 27 years. It’s nice to know that everyone goes through good and bad times. The important thing is that we stay committed and cherish every day.

  9. Terri Romero
    December 6, 2018 / 11:06 pm

    My mom always taught me there are three essentials to a successful relationship, communication, communication, communication. I have learned that successful communication listens for understanding and not response, addresses things timely, and assumes the best from the other, not the worst. Another simple thing I love, just going for a walk in the evening, it facilitates talking and connection..

  10. March 5, 2019 / 11:51 am

    thanks to the author for taking his clock time on this one.

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